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Proverbs 25:21-22 If your enemy is hungry, give him
food to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; (22) For
you will heap burning coals on his head, And the LORD will reward you.
There are two possible meanings that commentators normally speak
The Bible Knowledge Commentary states 'Sometimes a
person’s fire went out and he needed to borrow some live coals to
restart his fire. Giving a person coals in a pan to carry home “on his
head” was a neighborly, kind act; it made friends, not enemies. Also
the kindness shown in giving someone food and water makes him ashamed
of being an enemy, and brings God’s blessing on the benefactor.
Compassion, not revenge, should characterize believers (cf.
The also state: 'The coals on the head may
refer to a ritual in Egypt in which a person showed his repentance by
carrying a pan of burning charcoal on his head. Helping rather than
cursing an enemy may cause him to be ashamed and penitent. As Paul
summarized, Do not be overcome by evil, giving in to the temptation to
retaliate, but overcome evil with good (cf. Mat_5:44, “love your
enemies”). Again positive and negative commands are put together (cf.
Rom_12:9, Rom_12:11, Rom_12:16-20).'
Others speak of this
ritual from Egypt as the background to this expression as well.
The Believers Bible Commentary adds for Rom 12:20 (where this is
quoted) 'Christianity goes beyond non-resistance to active
benevolence. It does not destroy its enemies by violence but converts
them by love. It feeds the enemy when he is hungry and satisfies his
thirst, thus heaping live coals of fire on his head. If the live coal
treatment seems cruel, it is because this idiomatic expression is not
properly understood. To heap live coals on a person's head means to
make him ashamed of his hostility by surprising him with
Bottom line is don't repay evil
for evil but repay evil with good... it will bring conviction and
possibly repentance. The Believers Bible Commentary also gives this
"An irate neighbor called a new believer and
delivered a violent tirade against the believer's five-year-old
daughter for trampled flowers, a broken window, and other offenses.
When the neighbor came up for air, the Christian asked her to come
over to discuss the matter.
By the time the neighbor arrived, the table had been set for
coffee and sweet rolls. "Oh, I'm sorry—you're having company." "No,"
replied the believer, "I thought we could talk about my daughter over
a cup of coffee." The Christian gave thanks for the food and asked for
God's wisdom. When she opened her eyes, the visitor was crying. "It's
not your daughter, it's mine," blurted the neighbor. "I don't know why
I lashed out at you. I just can't cope with my children, my husband,
or my home!"
As soon as the neighbor made this admission, the young
believer started sharing Christ. Within six weeks the neighbor and her
family had been born again."
Now knowing what it means is
the easy part... now comes the important part which is (with the
Lord's help) living it when someone does us wrong! : )